Hi, I’m Rach
I work with people who are exhausted from overthinking, people-pleasing, and making themselves smaller to keep everyone else comfortable.
If you’ve landed here, you’re probably struggling in plain sight. Appearing to thrive but only just surviving.
You’re exhausted, with anxiety taking up a permanent spot in your mind and body.
You probably know your patterns. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, saved the quotes and watched the reels, but nothing seems to help. You still feel stuck. Paralysed.
I’m not here to tell you to “just be more confident”, “set firmer boundaries”, or give you another quick coping strategy you’ve already tried before.
What we do in therapy is real. It’s a safe space for you to finally dare yourself to be honest. To appreciate how your patterns have helped you to survive so far, and choose how you might want to live in future.
About me
Is therapy for me?
People often worry about coming to therapy because their problems “aren’t big enough”. As though there’s a certain level of distress, anxiety or circumstance that would actually give them permission to need support.
And the classic person who feels this? The people pleaser.
I’m talking from experience here. I know what it’s like to struggle. Both in my own life, and from my experience of working in mental health. I know what it feels like to look like you’re coping on the outside, but internally, it feels like you’re only just holding things together - even the small stuff.
You replay conversations trying to work out whether someone’s upset with you.
You reread messages and emails five times before sending them.
You wake up at 3am mentally listing everything you didn’t get done yesterday.
You spend so much time taking care of everyone else that you don’t know what you need anymore.
In fact, you feel like you’ve lost yourself - unsure of who you actually are anymore.
You deserve more than this. It isn’t a question of knowing how to ‘cope better’, but a question of: why does it feel safer to abandon your own needs rather than fail or let someone down?
Life events can create huge shifts in our sense of self and identity - whether this is becoming a parent, experiencing loss, a relationship or friendship breakdown, illness and so many other things. Equally, we might have learned these patterns to survive, learning that caring for others is the only way we’re acceptable. But now? Those patterns aren’t keeping you safe, they’re just draining you.
To move from this internal paralysis to feeling you have choice is hugely empowering. It’s something we all deserve.
Together, we can gently explore this. It might take time and it might feel messy, but it can also feel cleansing and empowering. You can learn to choose your life, choose your responses and choose your boundaries without guilt, and with confidence.